Social Media Manager for Solos Holidays, Stephanie Reed, discusses whether it’s morally right or wrong to travel alone and leave your loved ones at home.   

Three months after I got married and honeymooned, I agreed to join one of my girl friends in South Africa to tour its famous Garden Route over two weeks. It was a destination I’ve always desperately wanted to visit and, being self-employed (unlike my husband who has a set number of annual leave days to use), I had the flexibility to travel with my laptop in tow so I could dip in and out of work during my trip.

My husband was fully supportive of my trip – he had already visited South Africa before we met, as well as enjoyed his own solo trip to Malaysia with family members earlier that year. I had a great time in South Africa but something that surprised me was the amount of judgement I received from fellow travellers that I met along the way when they found out I was travelling without my husband. I was regularly questioned with: “Does he mind?!” “Is he fine about you being alone out here?” “Wow. He must be a very understanding man.”

I found myself having to justify why I was travelling with a friend and not my husband, which seemed ridiculous. Are married couples always supposed to holiday together? Now that we’re married, am I not allowed to venture out alone? Are we stuck in the Victorian times?! I love my husband more than anything, but I should still be able to pursue interests away from him.

Content that often generates a lot of comments on Solos Holidays’ social media channels includes real life features where women explain why they choose to go on holiday without their children or partner. Thankfully the comments are often incredibly supportive because the Solos’ community can relate – Solos’ trips are available to anyone travelling alone. Its guests may be single, unable to travel at the same time as their partner and children, or simply have different interests to their friends or partner.

It was refreshing when I joined my first Solos Holidays’ tour in Arctic Norway and received zero judgement from other guests – in fact, a number of them had husbands, wives or kids at home too.

While others might be quick to judge, surely it’s a sign of a healthy relationship if partners are able to holiday together, as well as separately sometimes (distance does makes the heart grow fonder after all)? And, as long as your children are left in trusted hands, isn't it important for busy, selfless mothers or fathers to enjoy some ‘me’ time occasionally?

Travelling broadens the mind in so many ways and hopefully such judgement won’t exist one day. What are you thoughts on this topic? Tell us on our Facebook or Twitter channels.




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